Racism still exists. Just because you don't experience doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Just because you don't want to talk about it or it isn't politically correct to talk about it, doesn't mean it doesn't have a place in conversation.
When someone believes LIES like:
Black children deserve a harsher punishment than white children
Black people being "thugs" disserve their punishments
A black person robbing a store is punishable by death
A black person is less disserving of a college scholarship than a white person
Equal rights opportunities laws means that minorities are less qualified than white people
Mexicans don't speak English
Mexican/Latinos don't disserve social welfare
Middle Eastern people are terrorists
Africans are all poor
Africans can only get to America by boat
Please know these are LIES of the ENEMY! Racism is a LIE of the ENEMY.
If my daughter gets into a college that you're white child doesn't... it might just be because she has better credentials.
I cannot sit back and let people deny racism in the US. Also, without acknowledging its presence we can't do anything about it. Education is the first step to moving forward.
I needed a place to write my inner mediations in a place that isn't going to get thrown away because I didn't finish the journal or my kid drew in the rest of the pages.
Friday, August 22, 2014
Sunday, June 8, 2014
Being a Mommy....
When I was a kid, I wanted to be a Mommy. Then someone told me I had to get a real job with real ambitions... When I was tiny I told my mom, after careful consideration, that I wanted to be a firefighter (like my dad and a female firefighter Jo). My mother told me I couldn't be a firefighter and caused me to pursue the idea of what another career would be since mothering wasn't good enough. So then I wanted to be a veterinarian and soon I realized animals die and it makes people really sad. So, I thought I would be a zoologist and soon realized that it lacked interpersonal connection. After that my counselor in high school thought I would be a great nurse so he signed me up for a Nursing assistant class. After taking the class twice and working in a hospital setting, I realized I hated being under nurses. To me they were neurotic and failed to treat nursing assistants like real people. Instead they said yes or no like they had the power of a doctor. Doctors were nicer to the NA's because they saw the hard work and humanity they had to maintain to be adequate at their jobs. So, I thought about being a nurse. After taking anatomy and physiology several times and failing to pass it I realized maybe it wasn't destiny. It was confirmed with I realized that I don't butter up to superiors, I have my own mind, and I don't follow irrelevant rules. I have a defined sense of right and wrong that drives my motivation more than the rules.
So, with nurse, nursing assistant, zoologist, veterinarian.... mommy is left.
Here I am living my life long dream questioning if it is good enough. Society tells us that we should have this dream with this six figure income and pursue these higher values or ideals. My dream is to pursue biblical beliefs and teach my child the same. My life long dream as a little girl was to be a mommy and teach her.
While other girls were playing with different careered barbies, I kept mine in a box under my bed. I got my feet dirty being barefoot in the grass mothering my baby dolls, sitting them in little rows on my doll sized bunk beds and teaching them. I had every doll down to the special needs doll, felisika. I had a doll Katie that went to the store with me and rode in the baby seat. I had a doll Anna that looked after the younger dolls while I was away and set the example for the younger dolls. My best friend, Amber, and I had playdates with our dollies where we took them on her dad's boat over the water, we made them mudpies on her dad's grill, and walked them around our cul de sac.
So, here I am as a mommy. I grew Clara in my belly. I pushed her out. I have nourished her until she required more than just me. I have parented her patiently and gently, sometimes impatiently and not so gently. I have prayed over her and stayed awake at night worrying if I am teaching her enough or parenting her good enough. I worry if I am meeting my own expectations and everyone's expectations all at one time.
Then today I had this epiphany about my dream life: A mother is supposed to be is the mother I am. It is the mother that God created me. No one has higher parenting expectations than myself. No one worries more about my child's well being than me. No one is worried if I am doing it right enough than me. There is nothing in the world I hold myself more accountable for than my parenting skills and my daughter. I have accepted the challenge that God has given me and have chosen to shepherd my child's heart to him, granted I am no where near perfect, this is my commission from God and I will give it my all until he tells me it's time for something else.
Moms, You are the best parent for your child. You are their teacher. God gave you him or her and them you. Believe you can have the character God needs you to have for your child. You are adequate.
So, with nurse, nursing assistant, zoologist, veterinarian.... mommy is left.
Here I am living my life long dream questioning if it is good enough. Society tells us that we should have this dream with this six figure income and pursue these higher values or ideals. My dream is to pursue biblical beliefs and teach my child the same. My life long dream as a little girl was to be a mommy and teach her.
While other girls were playing with different careered barbies, I kept mine in a box under my bed. I got my feet dirty being barefoot in the grass mothering my baby dolls, sitting them in little rows on my doll sized bunk beds and teaching them. I had every doll down to the special needs doll, felisika. I had a doll Katie that went to the store with me and rode in the baby seat. I had a doll Anna that looked after the younger dolls while I was away and set the example for the younger dolls. My best friend, Amber, and I had playdates with our dollies where we took them on her dad's boat over the water, we made them mudpies on her dad's grill, and walked them around our cul de sac.
So, here I am as a mommy. I grew Clara in my belly. I pushed her out. I have nourished her until she required more than just me. I have parented her patiently and gently, sometimes impatiently and not so gently. I have prayed over her and stayed awake at night worrying if I am teaching her enough or parenting her good enough. I worry if I am meeting my own expectations and everyone's expectations all at one time.
Then today I had this epiphany about my dream life: A mother is supposed to be is the mother I am. It is the mother that God created me. No one has higher parenting expectations than myself. No one worries more about my child's well being than me. No one is worried if I am doing it right enough than me. There is nothing in the world I hold myself more accountable for than my parenting skills and my daughter. I have accepted the challenge that God has given me and have chosen to shepherd my child's heart to him, granted I am no where near perfect, this is my commission from God and I will give it my all until he tells me it's time for something else.
Moms, You are the best parent for your child. You are their teacher. God gave you him or her and them you. Believe you can have the character God needs you to have for your child. You are adequate.
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
Understanding my Child helps me understand God.
As I relearn to experience the world through the eyes of my eighteen month old, I often envision God's feelings being much like hers. My toddler has minimal control of her world. Right as she is in the height of playing she is whisked away into the car so that she can be confined into her car seat and driven to a new place. I wonder if God gets frustrated the same way that she does when we place these same ideals placed on him. So often I find myself having Jesus time, bible study, or prayer then moving about my day on my own path. Or I put my hope in the Lord until it makes me uncomfortable with the ideas that God has in store for my life because they are out of my control.
I grew up in a tiny maybe two hundred member Methodist church. I was taught the ten commandments, that Jonah was swallowed by a whale, Noah built the ark, Jesus performed miracles, and many other rudimentary concepts of the bible. I was told that Jesus loves me and that we pray to God. I religiously went to church every Sunday to "find Jesus" (as we jokingly used to call it). We were often told about the omnipresence of God. Every summer I went to Christian camp and every fall I went to youth seminars where I experienced God's love over and over.
It wasn't until I experience the power of the Holy Spirit that I realized about God's all encompassing capability and I realized that I had God comfortably in a box. Everyday I find myself struggling with the concept of letting him out or leaving him in. Each day I decide whether to accept his presence and favor with me or leave him in the box and take my own path. Most days, I quite honestly live and dwell within myself where I am comfortable.
You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in the realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they do not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, then even though your body is subject to death because of sin, the Spirit gives life because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies because of his Spirit who lives in you. -Romans 8:9-11
I find my day looking like:
Wake up, check Facebook, read Twitter (I am newly a tweeter @mollymiser), change Clara's diaper, get dressed, make and serve breakfast, check Facebook, decide upon the activities of the day, etc.
WHERE IS GOD?
The same place that Clara feels. I can imagine he is probably frustrated that I left him in a box in the back of my head or in the bible I left on the shelf. I can envision him sitting in the back seat of my car waiting for me to engage him. I can see him watching me on the phone or texting or using checking social media. I can see him looking out the window and seeing his glory and pointing to me as I ignore his creation and talk on the phone. I can see him trying to feed me his knowledge as I continue cooking and saying, "no thank-you, I am busy."
Then when I am frustrated and Clara is screaming at the top of her lungs, I remember all of those times she extended her energy to me and I ignored it. While they may seem like tiny events in the day, every moment is precious to a toddler and every moment is precious to God. When Jesus came to the world you didn't hear about him walking around immersed in everyone else's story. He created his own. He created us to love him and nurture our relationship with him in the same way he created parents to cultivate their relationships with their children.
I pray that you cultivate your relationships with God and your children with the love of the Lord and his desires.
Love you.
I grew up in a tiny maybe two hundred member Methodist church. I was taught the ten commandments, that Jonah was swallowed by a whale, Noah built the ark, Jesus performed miracles, and many other rudimentary concepts of the bible. I was told that Jesus loves me and that we pray to God. I religiously went to church every Sunday to "find Jesus" (as we jokingly used to call it). We were often told about the omnipresence of God. Every summer I went to Christian camp and every fall I went to youth seminars where I experienced God's love over and over.
"Therefore let us leave the elementary doctrine of Christ and go on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God..." -Hebrews 6:1
It wasn't until I experience the power of the Holy Spirit that I realized about God's all encompassing capability and I realized that I had God comfortably in a box. Everyday I find myself struggling with the concept of letting him out or leaving him in. Each day I decide whether to accept his presence and favor with me or leave him in the box and take my own path. Most days, I quite honestly live and dwell within myself where I am comfortable.
You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in the realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they do not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, then even though your body is subject to death because of sin, the Spirit gives life because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies because of his Spirit who lives in you. -Romans 8:9-11
I find my day looking like:
Wake up, check Facebook, read Twitter (I am newly a tweeter @mollymiser), change Clara's diaper, get dressed, make and serve breakfast, check Facebook, decide upon the activities of the day, etc.
WHERE IS GOD?
The same place that Clara feels. I can imagine he is probably frustrated that I left him in a box in the back of my head or in the bible I left on the shelf. I can envision him sitting in the back seat of my car waiting for me to engage him. I can see him watching me on the phone or texting or using checking social media. I can see him looking out the window and seeing his glory and pointing to me as I ignore his creation and talk on the phone. I can see him trying to feed me his knowledge as I continue cooking and saying, "no thank-you, I am busy."
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me. -Revelation 3:20
Then when I am frustrated and Clara is screaming at the top of her lungs, I remember all of those times she extended her energy to me and I ignored it. While they may seem like tiny events in the day, every moment is precious to a toddler and every moment is precious to God. When Jesus came to the world you didn't hear about him walking around immersed in everyone else's story. He created his own. He created us to love him and nurture our relationship with him in the same way he created parents to cultivate their relationships with their children.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5
I pray that you cultivate your relationships with God and your children with the love of the Lord and his desires.
Love you.
Monday, May 19, 2014
Our kids are God's, not ours.
When people compliment me on my daughter's curls, her big brown eyes, her long eyelashes, her cuteness, her sweetness, her intelligence, or her well-behaved manner I am gracious to God her heavenly Father for giving her lovely assets. Everyone has heard the line, "I brought you into this world and I can take you out." I remind myself everyday that God brought her into this world. God chose to plant her spirit inside of her little body and God can take her home any day at any given moment. Some people may think I am morbid for thinking this way but this reminds me everyday that I am blessed.
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." -Jeremiah 1:5
I view Clara as a gift from God to me and her father. It reminds me that God gave me an opportunity to parent her and an opportunity to show her His wonder and His glory. God gave me her so that I can mirror his grace to her so that she will love her eternal Father. God gave me her to protect her from the evil forces of the world, show her his love, guide her to my best ability down the straight and narrow and teach her when she falls from his will. God also inspired me to show her the unconditional love he shows us with any circumstance that arrises.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. -Psalm 139:13
So remember, God gives and he takes away (Job 1:21). It's so easy to take life for granted until they are not there and you are that parent holding your child for the last time as God calls them home for some foreseen or unforeseen circumstance. Anything can happen and we are living in the last days. Never take life for granted. Even when your little one seems unmanageable, while she's throwing a fit in the middle of floor at the grocery store because she wants candy, remind yourself to let their heavenly Father deal with them. Pour prayers over them. Speak words of life into their hearts. Mirror our father's love so that it is unmistakable to them in comparison to the world they are living in.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
Love you.
Friday, May 16, 2014
Bored and need a good DRAMA? Hosea.
Ladies, we all love a little bit of drama in our lives! We all love a little bit of who's with who and who is causing what kind of drama updates in our lives sometimes. While we all would agree that we hate drama and wish there wasn't any in our lives, we all secretly carry a low level constantly.
IF you can have any level of drama have it Jesus-style. There is no need to go any further than the old testament to find a bumpy novel. Hosea has DRAMA!
The other day, Clara was sleeping so I picked up my bible and decided to get a little reading in during her nap. I opened my bible and thought, "I wonder what the old testament even talks about." I usually sway away from the old testament because of the names that always throw me for a loop but Hosea some how caught my attention.
First, it opens by talking about his harlot of a wife. A thesaurus says that a harlot is also a floozy, tramp, hussy, etc. Apparently this is a more formal term for...well a girl who sleeps around.
Then God tells him to stay with her!
Then somehow because of her hussiness, this ends up cursing Israel who renounces the presence of God and the wrath that God has for them. He starts talking about women's uteruses being cut open, fire and other craziness. DRAMA!
You should read this.
Here are a couple of tidbits and take homes:
Hosea 2:19-20 (NIV): I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.
Hosea 4:14 (NIV): ...a people without understanding will come to ruin!
Hosea 6:3 (NIV): Let us acknowledge the lord; let us press on to acknowledge him. As surely as the sun rises, he will appear.
Hosea 10:12 (NIV): Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers his righteousness on you.
Hosea 11:10 (NIV): They will follow the LORD; he will roar like a lion. When he roars, his children will come trembling from the west.
Hosea 12:6 (NIV): But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice, and wait for your God always.
Hosea 14:9 (NIV): ...The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.
Good News for us!
Love you - read it. Good little tidbits! LOTS of DRAMA! A fun little roller coaster.
IF you can have any level of drama have it Jesus-style. There is no need to go any further than the old testament to find a bumpy novel. Hosea has DRAMA!
The other day, Clara was sleeping so I picked up my bible and decided to get a little reading in during her nap. I opened my bible and thought, "I wonder what the old testament even talks about." I usually sway away from the old testament because of the names that always throw me for a loop but Hosea some how caught my attention.
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First, it opens by talking about his harlot of a wife. A thesaurus says that a harlot is also a floozy, tramp, hussy, etc. Apparently this is a more formal term for...well a girl who sleeps around.
Then God tells him to stay with her!
Then somehow because of her hussiness, this ends up cursing Israel who renounces the presence of God and the wrath that God has for them. He starts talking about women's uteruses being cut open, fire and other craziness. DRAMA!
You should read this.
Here are a couple of tidbits and take homes:
Hosea 2:19-20 (NIV): I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.
Hosea 4:14 (NIV): ...a people without understanding will come to ruin!
Hosea 6:3 (NIV): Let us acknowledge the lord; let us press on to acknowledge him. As surely as the sun rises, he will appear.
Hosea 10:12 (NIV): Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers his righteousness on you.
Hosea 11:10 (NIV): They will follow the LORD; he will roar like a lion. When he roars, his children will come trembling from the west.
Hosea 12:6 (NIV): But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice, and wait for your God always.
Hosea 14:9 (NIV): ...The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.
Good News for us!
Love you - read it. Good little tidbits! LOTS of DRAMA! A fun little roller coaster.
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Thursday, May 15, 2014
Who do you follow?
There was a point in my life when I realized that a lot of my friends on facebook weren't actually friends. I had Negative Nelly, Worrying Willy, in Constant Crisis Cindy and many other friends that weren't moving in the direction of my life. It is so important to have people in your life with the same values and momentum as you. If you are a facebook-aholic like me, and everytime you open facebook there is Negative Nelly and Put-you-down Patsy, it is time to either A- UNFOLLOW these people or B- Simply UNFRIEND them.
Your friendship are not and should not be constructed by a social media network. If it is, you need to develop those relationships or let them go. There are so many people that are friends with me on facebook that I have simply unfollowed because I am not quite ready to let them go but have no interest in their posts. I want positive energy following in my life, the fruits of the spirit and encouragement.
Proverbs 13:4 says, "He who walks with the wise grows wise."
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Your friendship are not and should not be constructed by a social media network. If it is, you need to develop those relationships or let them go. There are so many people that are friends with me on facebook that I have simply unfollowed because I am not quite ready to let them go but have no interest in their posts. I want positive energy following in my life, the fruits of the spirit and encouragement.
Hebrews 10:24-25 says, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Let's not ever EVER give up on encouraging one another. All in the same breath, if someone is not encouraging you, it might be time to let them go. You are the light of the world, don't let people blow it out, drag it across the bush or hide it with their negative commentary. Hide them! Hide them in your heart, pray for them, but don't let them get in the way of the message of God you have for your fellow friends.
If these people aren't encouraging you, yoking with you, professing their faith and the word of God with you, praying for you and lifting you up. Seriously consider unfollowing them.
Here are some AWESOME people to follow:
- Joyce Meyer Ministries
- Kimberly Jones-Pothier
- Susanne Cox
- Upworthy - not necessarily Christian but I enjoy seeing the positive news
- Humans of New York - Definitely not Christian or conservative but people's stories are so powerful (Revelation 12:11)
- Grandma Betty33 - if you ever need a sweet grandma, consider adopting her
- Heather Lindsey - A sweet christian lady who loves Jesus
Girls, Ladies, and Pals: If you arent being encouraged find you favorite Christian band, speaker, author, and pastor and friend/follow them. Fill your wall with God's word and his define appointments!
Love you!!!
Friday, May 9, 2014
I will NOT..
I will not conform to American Parenting. I will not.
Alot of my friends who have kids are buying their kids the newest trendy toys and clothes, stressing out about having a matching bow with each corresponding outfits and making sure that they conform to society's view of what a kid should look and act like.
Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will."
Hand me downs, second hand toys, thrift store hot finds, and creative deals are what surround my child's world. We spend a lot of singing, dancing, and discussing things she can be learning. I spend alot of time encouraging and talking to her. Her face may not be clean 100% of the time; but she gets a bath. Her clothes may not be brand new and trendy; but she is definitely my picture of what a kid should look like. Her hair may not have a matching bow; but God gave her amazing curls and a smile that outshine any bow.
We have this push in America for every parent to be a professional entertainer, monogrammer, crafter and personal chef for their kids. While it is our job to train a child in a way that they will not turn from (Proverbs 22:6), we are the leaders in the household and should train them this way.
I will educate my child. I will teach her her early literacy skills, early math skills, her colors, and shapes. I will encourage her to be imaginative and give her avenues to be creative.
As a parent, I want her to be a successful, contributing member of society as well as nurture into her a passion for Christ. I constantly want to challenge her to be more than she is as well as cultivate her already strong, independant spirit.
I constantly pray over her, love on her, teach her, and grow with her. There are too many resources out there to be reading to take the, "I came out ok so this is the method I am using" parenting method. Ok is not enough.
Parents:
God gave you a mighty gift. The world did not give you this baby; God did. Act and seek accordingly.
Alot of my friends who have kids are buying their kids the newest trendy toys and clothes, stressing out about having a matching bow with each corresponding outfits and making sure that they conform to society's view of what a kid should look and act like.
Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will."
Hand me downs, second hand toys, thrift store hot finds, and creative deals are what surround my child's world. We spend a lot of singing, dancing, and discussing things she can be learning. I spend alot of time encouraging and talking to her. Her face may not be clean 100% of the time; but she gets a bath. Her clothes may not be brand new and trendy; but she is definitely my picture of what a kid should look like. Her hair may not have a matching bow; but God gave her amazing curls and a smile that outshine any bow.
I will educate my child. I will teach her her early literacy skills, early math skills, her colors, and shapes. I will encourage her to be imaginative and give her avenues to be creative.
As a parent, I want her to be a successful, contributing member of society as well as nurture into her a passion for Christ. I constantly want to challenge her to be more than she is as well as cultivate her already strong, independant spirit.
I constantly pray over her, love on her, teach her, and grow with her. There are too many resources out there to be reading to take the, "I came out ok so this is the method I am using" parenting method. Ok is not enough.
Parents:
God gave you a mighty gift. The world did not give you this baby; God did. Act and seek accordingly.
Thursday, April 17, 2014
My kid will be told "no."
I feel like there is a "yes" culture moving in our society. People refuse to tell their kid no. They want their kid to always be on every team, never be bullied, and to always have shoes on to play. Infact, this culture would rather their kid be inside. I am tired of it. My kid will have pure pressure, she will not make a team at some point in her live, she will be barefoot, she will play outside and she will be told no. One day she will not get a job or not get a raise and never be told why.
Sometimes no has to mean no and she needs to trust that I am making the best decision for her. While we will not spank her for not listening she will definitely have consequences. I want her to understand that she has consequences to her actions. To have a person constantly cheerleading you on leads to an unrealistic view of the world. People in the adult world go to jail for not following the laws. People in the school aged world go to timeout or lose privileges at school for not listening. Little people in preschool can be kicked out for hitting and biting. These are all consequences of actions and she needs to learn happen.
While I am in no sense advocating for bullying and peer pressure, these things teach children about themselves. Also, they can be resources for a parent to teach their child how to let other people treat them. If you let a person treat you any kind of way, they will. If a child doesn't make the sports team, they will learn that it takes a certain level of esteem to get on the team and that if they apply themselves harder they will be able to get on that team next year. If they don't get the job they can learn what it takes to get it and try again. Being resilient is important.
So yes, my kid will hear the word no. She may not like it but it is what it is. She may not always get a dissertation on why the behavior is not ok. But she will learn to deal with it. My kid will be told no and she will learn to handle it.
Sometimes no has to mean no and she needs to trust that I am making the best decision for her. While we will not spank her for not listening she will definitely have consequences. I want her to understand that she has consequences to her actions. To have a person constantly cheerleading you on leads to an unrealistic view of the world. People in the adult world go to jail for not following the laws. People in the school aged world go to timeout or lose privileges at school for not listening. Little people in preschool can be kicked out for hitting and biting. These are all consequences of actions and she needs to learn happen.
While I am in no sense advocating for bullying and peer pressure, these things teach children about themselves. Also, they can be resources for a parent to teach their child how to let other people treat them. If you let a person treat you any kind of way, they will. If a child doesn't make the sports team, they will learn that it takes a certain level of esteem to get on the team and that if they apply themselves harder they will be able to get on that team next year. If they don't get the job they can learn what it takes to get it and try again. Being resilient is important.
So yes, my kid will hear the word no. She may not like it but it is what it is. She may not always get a dissertation on why the behavior is not ok. But she will learn to deal with it. My kid will be told no and she will learn to handle it.
Sunday, March 9, 2014
Where are all the REAL Women?
God wants us to be real. He wants us to be genuine. He wants us to be risk takers. God did not create a single sole on this earth to sit back and live a meaningless life. God designed us to go and make disciples of all nations. That is HUGE. It doesn't come from buy/sell/trade or craigslist. It doesn't come from the many selfies posted on facebook or instagram. It doesn't come from us living a safe comfortable daily grind. Nothing in the world means more than the daily encounters of the people around you and the ones within your family. God has made you of his image to encounter him and to share in his goodness. This is huge.
Women we are more than just housewives, full time working mothers, part time workers, or even mothers. We are made to shine so that all (wo)men can see God's face. God's disciples did not just sit wait for someone to approach them to tell them about Jesus. He made us to serve in a huge way! If we can have big enough faith to open the door, God will move in huge ways!
Ladies, take risks! Ask God BRAVELY to move in your life! God wants to see you be amazing! He has a huge plan for you and your life!
WHERE ARE ALL THE REAL GODLY WOMEN!!! Let's life him loud! Not just on Sundays. Not just in the house.
Lets step up and be world changers!
Be real.
~MJ~
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Monday, March 3, 2014
Oscar Awards 2014
Ellen Degeneres blew the Oscars out of the water and took it to a new level by ordering pizza and the multitudes of selfies. This awards show was watched by more viewers than the opening ceremonies of the 2014 Winter Olympic opening ceremonies.
Here are my favs:
1- Best impromptu God tribute: Darlene Love's "His Eye Is on the Sparrow" was lovely.
2- Most Eyebrow Raising Acceptance speech: Matthew McConaughey
3- Most Emotional Acceptance Speech: Lupita Nyong'o
3- Best Dressed: Jennifer Lawrence
4- Best Fall: Jennifer Lawrence
5- Best Transition: Ellen ordering pizza
6- Prettiest Legs: Pharrell Williams
7- Best Hat: Pharrell Williams
8- Most Popular Shoe: Red Octobers
9- Only Nominated Movie I Saw: Star Trek Into Darkness
10- Best Name Flub: John Travolta
There you have it.. my favorite moments from the Oscars. Here's to the Oscars of 2014!!
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1- Best impromptu God tribute: Darlene Love's "His Eye Is on the Sparrow" was lovely.
2- Most Eyebrow Raising Acceptance speech: Matthew McConaughey
3- Most Emotional Acceptance Speech: Lupita Nyong'o
3- Best Dressed: Jennifer Lawrence
4- Best Fall: Jennifer Lawrence
5- Best Transition: Ellen ordering pizza
6- Prettiest Legs: Pharrell Williams
7- Best Hat: Pharrell Williams
8- Most Popular Shoe: Red Octobers
9- Only Nominated Movie I Saw: Star Trek Into Darkness
10- Best Name Flub: John Travolta
There you have it.. my favorite moments from the Oscars. Here's to the Oscars of 2014!!
*~Muah~*
MJ
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Wednesday: I failed - - but I won.
Today, I admit I have been on Facebook. But this encounfter with it was different. I posted yesterday's blog late. But I also had amazing conversation with people who missed me not being on. This is something that is always a feel good moment.
Now..
Let me explain how I failed..but I won. I did not make it a week. But get the opportunity to develop my mindset about this compulsive relationship I have with this website. I have been funneling my energy into projects, getting the house clean, imagining how to get Clara's room to look more like a little girl's room and less like a mess and many other life enriching things.
- I won because I am continuing to break the chain of needing that constant reassurance.
- I won because I am developing my relationship with God
- I won because I am working on projects left to sit for a while.
- I won because I am spending more quality time with Clara
- I won because I am breaking up the monotony.
Sometimes it's not about achieving the learning experience, the progress, the ability to re-prioritize, and the ability to love on people.
God has so many ideas floating around in my head. Now to get them organized. God had a greater plan for this experience. So excited to share life with you!!
~MJ~
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Tuesday: A Long Day
Today is Wednesday but I am going to recap yesterday here and move on to Wednesday in a new post. Yesterday I worked out and planned much of my next week from a work out perspective. Getting on that treadmill after a week off was like moving dead weight. After fifteen minutes on the treadmill I had convinced myself that I was dying. I realized then that I need to get back on and do it again.
Yesterday I:
-brainstormed some ideas for a project
-did a devotional for the first time in forever, A Faith and Culture Devotional
-mopped the kitchen/cleaned the cabinets
-gained some insight through a beautiful parenting book "Girls!: Helping Your Little Girl Become an Extraordinary Woman"
-spent some lovely time with my little one
-took a risk adding milk chunky salsa, beans, and peas to my mac and cheese (which wasn't bad at all... just different.
I constantly feel God knocking on the door to a heart that has been filled with so many tasks and the chronic necessity to fill my time instead of using it wisely. As a person with ADHD, I am chronically distracted. It takes so much energy for me to focus that by the time I do I fall asleep. I fell asleep doing homework the other night for this very reason. Here is God telling me that I need to accept my adulthood and tune this disorder into a blessing. Often a blessing to having this is that I comprehend things quickly and have a constant desire to move on. When I fill my life with things that are not just tasks I have a fuller feeling.
I hope this blesses you.
Romans 12:12 says, "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be in constant prayer."
Yesterday I:
-brainstormed some ideas for a project
-did a devotional for the first time in forever, A Faith and Culture Devotional
-mopped the kitchen/cleaned the cabinets
-gained some insight through a beautiful parenting book "Girls!: Helping Your Little Girl Become an Extraordinary Woman"
-spent some lovely time with my little one
-took a risk adding milk chunky salsa, beans, and peas to my mac and cheese (which wasn't bad at all... just different.
I constantly feel God knocking on the door to a heart that has been filled with so many tasks and the chronic necessity to fill my time instead of using it wisely. As a person with ADHD, I am chronically distracted. It takes so much energy for me to focus that by the time I do I fall asleep. I fell asleep doing homework the other night for this very reason. Here is God telling me that I need to accept my adulthood and tune this disorder into a blessing. Often a blessing to having this is that I comprehend things quickly and have a constant desire to move on. When I fill my life with things that are not just tasks I have a fuller feeling.
I hope this blesses you.
Romans 12:12 says, "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be in constant prayer."
~MJ~
Monday, February 17, 2014
Monday Part 2: Time with God (John)
So I randomly picked John to read because I found out the deadline for my homework was extended. I decided now was a great time to read the Word of God over my Kahlua. Here are my conclusions drawn:
John 1:1 - In the beginning was the word and the word was with God and the word was God (typing from memory).
So the "word" in Greek is Logos. Logos in college English is a used as a method of persuasion. Logos in Eng 101 was using logic to sway someones opinion or market their idea. So the word, Logos, was in the beginning, it was with God and it was God.
Logos means something said (including the thought); by implication a topic (subject of discourse), also reasoning (the mental faculty) or motive; by extension a computation; specifically (with the article in John) the Divine Expression (that is, Christ): - account, cause, communication, X concerning, doctrine, fame, X have to do, intent, matter, mouth, preaching, question, reason, + reckon, remove, say (-ing), shew, X speaker, speech, talk, thing, + none of these things move me, tidings, treatise, utterance, word, work.
Logos, long story short, is a motive, a topic reasoning. Basically the main idea. This verse tells us that God never changes. In the beginning He had the same character as he does now. He had the same logic and the same reasoning. So, in a sense He and the spirit were one.
John 1:4 - In him was life; and the life was the light of men.
Light: to make manifest.
He manifested himself within humans. God gave us the capability to be one with him. That is huge.
John 1:5 - And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.
Comprehended: to take eagerly, that is, seize, possess, etc. (literally or figuratively): - apprehend, attain, come upon, comprehend, find, obtain, perceive, (over-) take.
Darkness is the devil, those without the spirit of God within them did not take hold or take hold of the light (God).
MJ
Monday Part I
Well.. Hello!
As soon I realized it was Monday, even though the hubbs is home from work, I promptly logged off of my Facebook and have only preceeded to type the website address without logging in.
It is now 3 pm and I have am almost two weeks ahead in math class, the kitchen counter is clean and the sink is empty. I also stuffed my cloth diapers (that have been clean in the laundry bag for a few weeks now) and ran around the playground without desperately checking my Facebook every five minutes.
My strange addiction is become self actualized as I am really having to challenge myself on how to use my new spare time differently. I have cleaning the bathroom, folding and sorting the laundry, and mopping the floors. I have also considered opening the Word and having devotional time as well as going to the gym uninterrupted.
As soon I realized it was Monday, even though the hubbs is home from work, I promptly logged off of my Facebook and have only preceeded to type the website address without logging in.
It is now 3 pm and I have am almost two weeks ahead in math class, the kitchen counter is clean and the sink is empty. I also stuffed my cloth diapers (that have been clean in the laundry bag for a few weeks now) and ran around the playground without desperately checking my Facebook every five minutes.
My strange addiction is become self actualized as I am really having to challenge myself on how to use my new spare time differently. I have cleaning the bathroom, folding and sorting the laundry, and mopping the floors. I have also considered opening the Word and having devotional time as well as going to the gym uninterrupted.
So, I leave you this:
1-Find new things ways to spend time: a hobby, cleaning, or God time might suffice.
2-Slow down and enjoy the moments. Don't run from one thing to the next fueling that restlessness as well.
3-Breathe.. breathe in the Word of God.
~MJ~
Saturday, February 15, 2014
...Facebook...
My neighbor's post really hit me. What are we communicating to the world when we post things on the internet
Being brutally honest, this often looks at like #mybabyisamazing, #lookatmylife, #lookatme, #lookatmyfamily. I post things simply to jab around and get people either laughing or discussing a topic. Often it is something I feel strongly about. I have very strong beliefs and social positions and I like to discuss them. While I try to post about God, I too often am the same person who is posting something inappropriate to generate a cheap laugh.
As I read his post I asked myself: Where is God? My fiance and I talked about how much time I spend/waste on Facebook. It is true, I am a chronic user. I am an addict. I check my Facebook page more than a diabetic checks their blood sugar. Then I chronically have every intention of getting into the word, or stop procrastinating about my college homework, and suddenly I am back on Facebook. I find myself pursing this need for validation or how many people have liked/commented my posts.
This is ridiculous.
God desires to be the center of my life. He desires to use me as a vessel to show my daughter values. He wants me to open the window for him to come in.
Romans 8:38-39 says, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither ?height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." ...nor Facebook..
If I am filling every window with Facebook.. what else am I doing? The answer is...nothing.
If I am filling every moment with Facebook.. what time am I giving God? The answer is...none.
Maybe it's time for a break. A vacation. A staycation. I often dream of going to a cabin that is completely unplugged. The truth is I could create that environment without the woods or the cabin.
I challenge everyone who reads this: Journey with me.. to the center.. put God there.. and the rest will follow.
One Week sans constant checking and posting Facebook.
This week I will strictly post about Jesus and divine enlightenment... That's it.
This week I will strictly post about Jesus and divine enlightenment... That's it.
Can you do it?
Starting Monday 2/17...
Starting Monday 2/17...
~MJ~
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Does God call you in the Shower?
Before, I wanted to write this blog to bestow advice of motherhood to other new and needing mothers. I made lists of the places to buy kids clothing, what to do when thinking about medication for your child, and inspirations by other bloggers. I soon forgot it existed and consumed myself in other things.
Then God came to me in the shower.
He planted this desire to use this blog to glorify him. I have been consumed with brainstorming ideas on how to organize, make money at home, how to start homeschooling with my fourteen month old precocious daughter, and when to start devotionals with her. I have this burning desire to teach her Jesus and the fear of doing it wrong that consumes me. I have this goal of getting into the Word and this need to do everything but open my bible.
Immediately, I began to procrastinate. My dishwasher is loaded, the floor is vacuumed, Clara's high chair is squeaky clean, and I finished all of my homework way before it is due.
I began to ponder what to write about in my [His] blog...
MJ
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