Words. Diction. Phonetics. Language.
A system put in place for expression, organization, and intention. It is our system historically derived and based on the continually evolving culture. Culture decides the norm and infrastructure in which words have meaning and how they are defined. It also decided the emotions invoked by the words and the expectations carried out.
For example, divorce.
Traditionally, women were seen as property to their spouses. They couldn't own land, vote, and were seen as the one used to expand the family name. Men were allowed and expected to set and enforce the standards for their wives to live. Over time, rights were extended to women but women were rarely trained to be more than a child bearer. The expectation of a woman remained the same: to be dependent on their spouses financially, emotionally, and socially.
Finally, culture evolved. Women are, in most recent time, being trained to be self sufficient. This independence can be seen as a common strain in marriage traditional culture still used in present day. If a woman makes more money than her husband, it can be seen as emasculating. If a woman is emotionally independent, driven and educated it takes away the variable of codependency and changes the metaphysical shape of marriage. Instead of evolving and redefining marriage relevant to current time, couples use historical examples. This incongruence can be seen as a causation for divorce.
Historically, the word "divorce" is mangled with a multitude of negative connotations coupled with emotional and assumptions. Being in a state of divorce, people who were once in love are in hurt. Lives are anticipated to be divided, broken, hurting, torn and all words that embody a misshapen spirit. Divorce is shaped by ones feelings, insights, life experiences, interpersonal relationships and social expectations. One word devices and describes a multitude of negativity creating a sensory experience of low levels of vibration, dark or gray shades, harsh smells, and rough textures. Images of barren deserts or war torn fields or jungles being eradicated by deforestation come to mind.
Introspectively speaking...
What if you are spiritually whole? What if our spirit alone is enough? Your spirit appears fused together at each end like a closed shape protected by bright white light and infused with all of the colors of the rainbow. What if community, our interpersonal connections, are only an extension of our self and as we set limits and boundaries that allows the community to flourish around us. If we see others as around us instead of an extension of ourself we can free our spirit of their vibrations and brokenness and build together.
If we see ourselves woven together as a flag or quilt, these shards of fabric can quickly dismantle with time leaving the entire piece with weathered holes and blowing strands into uncharted territory of the universe. Contrarily, a brick structure would imply pieces with individual integrity but having built on each other to better withstand the forces of time because one removed piece doesn't ruin the integrity of the entire structure. Bricks don't change other bricks, they simply support a structure. So when divorce or separation of two individuals occur the brick house still stands but differently. A dismantled brick home can then create two equally as beautiful homes and maintain the honor of the seasons, weathering, and life it once shared.
This metaphor is a visualization of the conclusion of a marriage, socially termed divorce. A celebration of what once was with two lives imprinted on each other that memorialize where two paths were once one. These paths are a physical testimony to love, space, live and energy that was shared and is allowed to continue to coexist with divorce. Acting intentionally doesn't have to evolve into the social expectation of bitterness and actions don't have to evolve to a place of hurt or hate.
Meditating on the celebration of the end of a marital path or life chapter our story can look like a reflection on growth, change, evolution, and the desire to move forward with peace. Two separate paths became one and are now moving back to its original state. These paths can continue to share what was once shared with fondness, peace, and a deeply rooted love. Hope and prosperity can be a value for each individual path coupled with basic love causing growth to occur in new directions.
Celebration, love, peace hope, growth and prosperity.
These are all brightly colored words illustrating a tapestry of earth green with life, floral smells, soft winds and comforting textures like a fleece blanket on a brisk evening. Sounds of birds in the spring welcoming there new births provide peace in what's yet to come. All of the sensory input elevates your vibration and welcomes you into a new life, a new chapter.
